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Consequences of Lying

admin — Tue, 17 May 2011 01:09:14 +0000

Regardless of the reason, every time we lie it has a tremendous impact on our self-esteem. Lies serve to undermine our confidence and tarnish the relationship we have with ourselves. As much as we may try, we simply cannot exempt ourselves from the knowledge of right and wrong, or from the moral consequences of our actions. Although we may try to conceal our dishonesty, at some level it inevitably influences us. Our thoughts, choices, and actions always leave either positive or negative feelings about ourselves. Even though we may try to conceal our lies from others and downplay their effect on our self-esteem, we can never really hide them from ourselves.

If we lie, cheat or steal, we create a reputation with ourselves as a liar, cheater or thief. And no matter what others may think about us, we can’t hide the truth from ourselves. With each lie, we solidify the reputation with ourselves as liars. So, even if we forget the content of our lies, we remain a liar as far as our inner-self is concerned. And if deep down we already see ourselves as liars, we are more likely to lie in the future.

Making Responsible Choices

admin — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:39:44 +0000

It is important to understand that our past choices and experiences have a tendency to influence our present thoughts and behavior. And, the more we become automatic or habitual in our decision-making, the greater this tendency becomes. However, past choices and actions do not have to dictate future ones. With each and every choice, we have the ability to reverse our present direction and choose to start anew. As human beings, we all have the capacity to focus our conscious awareness on what is right and on the consequences of our actions, or we can choose to endlessly justify and debate our choices within our minds. We can choose to overcome our past and do what is right. We can make the choices that lead to personal happiness and freedom. And if this is too difficult for us to do on our own, we can choose to seek help.

Choices create a momentum in our lives

admin — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:38:03 +0000

The more right choices we make, the more habitual it becomes to make right choices. On the other hand, the more wrong choices we make, the easier it becomes to make the wrong choices.

The habits that we create through the choices that we make will have a profound effect on the outcome of our lives.

Self-esteem

admin — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:28:29 +0000

Our self-esteem is not constant; it fluctuates on a continuum. Instead of being something we either have or don’t have, self-esteem varies in degrees. The lower our self-esteem, the less confidence we have in ourselves and the less worthy we feel. The higher our self-esteem, the more confident, competent, and worthy we feel. Self-esteem is also not something that we can earn and store away for later – like a retirement account. It is something we must earn daily – like a paycheck. And, although not all primary sources of self-esteem are under our control (such as early childhood experiences and genetic make-up) it is primarily our thoughts, choices and actions which determine our level of self-esteem. Behavior and self-esteem are reciprocal. They are both a cause and consequence of each other.